Language of Love

 On Mothers Day my cousin Mojir showed me this  TED talk of Poet Ali a motivational speaker whose focus is on the human spirit. Talking about language and how it brings people together but also divides. Poet who is fluent in three languages does exercises with the audience and also talks about the universal language of love as well as others including being a minority, laughter, pain.

       As I delve deeper into love being universal I found a quote by American born poet Aberjhani that reflects something important for the individual community but also the world wide community, that being earth “Individual cultures and ideologies have their appropriate uses but none of them erase or replace the universal experiences, like love and weeping and laughter,  common to all human beings.” Where there is also something humbling about being able to connect with anyone on this topic that they have seen in family, relationships, religion, objects, hobbies, passions. A relationship counselor named Gary Chapman wrote a book about how love itself has five languages that of words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch.  In his book Chapman says that everyone has a primary and secondary love language. The language does;t usually change but develops over time. I was definitely considering not putting his work in my blog post about the language of love because its his own ideas with a lack of science behind them. Watching a segment on John Olivers program a bit about science and how there is such a large amount of false information that is taken as fact to the lack of replication studies around them because there is "no reward for fact checking". Essentially these 5 Languages of Love by Gary Chapman may very well be complete bull#$it but no one has done any type of study to see if they make any sense either....so heed with caution. To me receiving gifts is not important  at all but that may be that that's because receiving gifts is not my primary or secondary love language. The most important to me of these 5 is words of affirmation that feeling appreciated is something I crave so much and something that I have never really received from my parents,  is a huge part in finding someone to be with. 

To watch the Ted Talk of Poet Ali 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=488ZBeaGo6s

Chapman, Gary. "Understanding the Five Love Languages." Focus on the Family. Gary Chapman, 2012. Web. 14 May 2016.